We are often told by our parents not to talk to strangers when we are
quite young and this continues to a large extent as we grow up also.
More often, as of today I tend to ignore any stranger trying to make
conversation on the street on an impulse by either simply looking away
or walking away. For, instance this one time my friend and I were
taking a evening walk and two guys on biked started to block our way
and we just ignored them for a bit, increased our pace and tried to
make them lose track. In this case they seemed to have been from the
same socio-economic background as we were but just the way the
approached us did not seem right in terms what their intention could
have been. It did not give off a very healthy vibe which might have
started a conversation. It was not scary because of the location we
were in (streets by home).
There is also the question of wanting to approach a stranger, but
usually I feel I cannot do that because of the same reason I am not
readily willing to talk to anyone who approaches me. So I can question
myself, why would they talk to me and how would they know what my
intentions are ? They can always ignore us too. So I would usually end
up telling someone with me, "look" there is a guy we could talk to and
it remains that way. It is sad that we cannot approach anyone we want
to only because we never know when it could be unsafe. And most likely
the definition of safe and unsafe differs from person to person.
The person who is approaching I think usually has the upper hand in a
conversation.
For instance, if I were to approach someone i am sure of what I want
to say and hence not too uncomfortable for me. At the same time if a
stranger approached me, I would react in a questioning sense and I
would only be okay to have a conversation depending on what he wants
to communicate about as I would never be able to trust a person until
I know his reason for approaching me. I guess it also depends upon the
background of the stranger and the way he or she approaches.
Pooja is a student at Srishti School of Art Design and Technology. Pooja wrote this while doing a workshop with Blank Noise.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
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Men know that they shouldn't pester women in public.
They know that when a man approaches a woman he doesn't know, she knows he very likely might grab her or harass her. Men know that women face this kind of problem all the time, and that women's lives hang in the balance.
That's why men who really do have good intentions don't approach women they don't know on the street.
The ones who do -- they know they're causing you a problem. And they don't care.
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