Sunday, October 12, 2008

BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO AARTHI MOHAN

Saturday. Around 10:20 a.m. Sion railway station.

My friend Roh and I got tickets from the counter and were climbing the bridge to go to the platform. She was walking a little ahead of me. As I climbed the last step, I felt someone touch me from behind, where he shouldn't have. Sensing something odd, instinctively, I turned to look who that was. This man, definitely atleast 45 yrs. old, looks at me, gives a sly triumphant smile as a mark of having derived cheap pleasure, makes a lewd gesture and 'happily' strides away with the spring-in-his-step! For a moment, I just stared at him in disgust. But the look in his eyes, when he made that gesture, had already infuriated me. I was mad at him, wildly furious. I didn't stop to think further and yelled and screamed after him " kya be saale, sharam nahi aati kya? ....... " (now I feel i should use some gaalis in everyday language, just so I get used to saying them and they may flow out of my mouth with ease when required! maybe I'll write on 'the importance of gaalis' sometime.) So, I was fuming with rage and yelling at him. He started walking faster. I immediately turned around and found a policeman standing there, looking at me. I called him, pointed towards the wrong-doer from atop the bridge as 'there, the white shirt and black pants wala' and told him to run and catch him. Mr. policeman ran... and I was catching up... By this time, this @$$^*!& had reached the platform and was already on his way out through the gate. But Mr. policeman turned out to be efficient enough and paced faster and caught him outside and came with him, to where I was standing.

Now! I gave him a piercing look and said, "Bohot masti chadhi thi na tabhi?" and he was like " Maine kya kiya? Aap hi bataaiye maine kya kiya?" I was shaking with anger. I know why he asked that question. saale ko abhi bhi shaayad utri nahi thi. I'm sure he thought that I won't be able to say it, because there were so many people around by then. I said, I know what you did, you know what you did and you also know that what you did was wrong. Then he says, "Woh toh chalte-chalte dhakka lag gaya" to which i retorted "Aur gande ishaare bhi apne-aap hi ban gaye na?" He tried everything he could, to escape. Even asked the policeman that how can he be arrested just because I am saying something, to which, the policeman told him that she says so, you have to come along. I turned and told Mr. policeman that I'm ready to file a complaint against him, so why talk to him anyway? As I was heading forward, it suddenly struck me - how will my parents react to it? They may not approve. I didn't know. Behind me, he was still pleading to be let off. I turned. I said, " Theek hai, maafi maango, abhi." His immediate reaction was as if I'd hurt his male ego. I said, either you apologize publicly, for what you did, or I'm filing a complaint. The next moment, he folded his hands and said "Sorry madam". I watched his ego crumble into a thousand pieces. And he apologized twice, thrice, five times over. I motioned to Mr. policeman and he let him go. I thanked Mr. policeman; first, for being there at the right moment and second, for doing what he did.

As I walked upstairs, to the bridge, I saw all the people there staring at me. I was still hot-headed. There was anger in my eyes. Roh was standing there, clueless, waiting for me. I then told her everything. We got into the train. My face was so hot! A thermometer would've burst with the heat due to my anger! It was only after an hour or so, that my anger-level lowered a bit. At the end of the day, I felt drained. Naturally so.

But then, there was also this satisfaction inside me. He would've done that to many other women before and they must not have reacted this way, which is why, he did it to me. I can't say whether he will or will not repeat this with someone else, but atleast, I can be sure that he will think twice. And he'll probably never forget me. Moreover, from the crowd of more than a hundred people there who witnessed the incident, the men saw. And the women saw. I don't know whether having seen this will change their attitude. However, I sincerely hope that it does.

Next, I will talk to my mom about it and get to know as to how she'd react if I file a police complaint against someone. Also, I'd like to read the law a bit and know what comes under sexual harassment, what action can be taken, etc.

For now, I feel like a superstar - confident about my confidence.

age at the time of experience: 20 years
current age: 20 years

18 comments:

miss.meow said...
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miss.meow said...

hey jasmeen, my name is aarthi mohan. i'd love to have my my name there as 'blank noise action hero aarthi mohan.'thanks for putting up my story here.

bongi said...

well done..and talking of gaalis.. they do r handy.. btw.. i rber two nites back an autowallah was telling me a similar tale.. he was like ki acche khandan ke auraat ko koi kuch dhakka maare/touch kare..to woh 'sheepishly' in hindi apne aap ko bacha ke waha se nikal legi..mooh nahi lagegi.. but the gandi khaandaan ke aurat..will say '$$%# $@$% saale..ghar mai maa behen ki nahi'..wat amazes me is the thot that females who retort back in such ways r frm gande khaandaan.. anyways the fellow goes on to say.. tht all the boom of last 10-15 yrs has made all the females modern.. i just sat and listened to his tales...perceptions are such.. anyways it will take lots of time to change the muddle of the head..anyways for the moment bask in the glory :)

PersonaPix said...

amazing. for the non-hindi speakers can you post a translation of the hindi?

ashes said...

A Great One Actually.. Keep Rockin !!

AP said...

Well done, though, i don't know...are the gaalis all that necessary?

Jasmeen said...

sorry arti- will do that now.

Jasmeen said...

And it has been done- aarthi mohan

miss.meow said...

thank you jasmeen. :)
@ ap : gaalis show your agression, they have the desired effect of stunning the wrong-doer.

AP said...

To Miss Meow
I know gaalis show aggression, but do they really stun the receiver?

In light of this mini-discussion on gaalis, perhaps the following this will be found interesting.
http://ap-city-of-dijns.blogspot.com/2008/10/teri-ma-ki-analysis-of-common-swear.html

miss.meow said...

hie AP,
yes, i do think that gaalis stun the wrong-doer. one, because they're shocked to see a 'woman' having the guts to do so, in public. acts of sexual harrassment more often than not, emerge out of a sense of male superiority n also because they think women will not react. so, when a woman swears, obviously it doesn't conform to their ideas. plus, in these situations, it hits them when that language is used. the normal 'shareef' language is something that doesn't reach their ears. n i strongly believe in giving back. when someone does something bad to me, i want to see remorse on his face. n these days, i think one, especially a woman, should be like that.

bongi said...

hey veer naari.. tujhe mere pranaam.. swayam shiv hi mardo ko tere krodh ke jwala se bacha sakta hai :)

miss.meow said...

hahahh ... lol ...

jasdeep said...

ok...now this was sumthin really kool...an invariantly courageous act!! A ray of hope sply after dose mumbai attacks.!!..

tushar said...

hey arti, tushar here, dint knoww u can do this tooo, sahi hai boss,
impressssed,
and this community givin a good msgg, keep it upp

and yes gaalis will definitely helppp ;)
i have seen male faces go downnn wen some one gives a lot of slang on their face, specially woman,, so go ahead

jasdeep said...

lol..seemed lil of the hook wen tushar said..male faces going slang...lol...actually its pretty embarassing...its like ur being forced to move naked and ur being kicked on ur butt sideways...lol...this is hw it feels..
PS: i havnt been slapped,,so plss dnt interpret the same :)

Anish Patel said...

Good work and daring act madam...Hope other women also have dare to act... react to these things.......

miss lony said...

hiii miss meow miss aarthi mohan,i read ur blog story im impressed by ur reaction against mens drastic nature.actually dis incidents usually happens everyday to many girls or womens in bus,trains or even on public places and womens just keep quiet and enjoy the game because of fear,if we dont react then it means u r enjoying it ryt...actually my name is fake in this as i dont want to disclose my name but i want to tell my real stroy to the world how a girl who was neighbour and a very good friend of mine cheated me wid her innocence actually she wasnt so.she was a bitch a dirty bastard...sorry to use it but she deserves it and i cant stop to call her so....plz have the heart to read my story.it not unreal,its based on my life and how someone misused my love and affection for her selfish needs....